It is what it is

Once again it's been a few weeks since my last post, and they're getting less frequent now that we're settling into life with the Miso Monster. Cactus has a range of strategies and tools (earplugs, earbuds, wireless over-ear headphones, a white noise machine) she can use at school and at home. Most of the time they work, sometimes they don't. I have learned to modify my behaviour when she's around. Most of the time it works, sometimes it doesn't.

Individually and together we've passed through several stages of something or other. Shock, denial, anger, reflection, acceptance. Well, maybe not acceptance. Not quite yet. I'll never fully accept that this b*stard of a burden is something she deserves or should have to live with. But live with it she must, and we've both come to terms with the fact that it's a long term condition that can be managed but not fixed.

It is what it is.